Spiritual experiences are the real experiences of the soul empowerment. They are hard to comprehend but when looked through the inner eye, they become lucid and absolute bliss. These experiences are stepping stones to souls’ real journey, the canvas of their journey and the anchor of faith. I believe that women are far more attuned to
experience a spiritual jolt in life; a moment that shakes the deepest core of their
existence and brings them face to face with their inner warrior woman, their Kali.
Either you have already experienced the Kali moment or your life is leading you
towards one. Without a doubt, each one of us have or will soon face that moment. If
you are already on your spiritual quest or have chosen the road less travelled, think,
what was that one moment, that first moment that initiated a series of events leading
to the bigger picture? We may experience many moments of awakening in our life
but some decisions leave a lasting imprint. Think back to that one moment which led
you to a turbulent journey of emotional rollercoaster but that’s one journey that you
would never want erase from your life. It was worth it because the person you
became after that is who you really are. It allowed you to take off the mask! What
was the moment which restored your faith in yourself, made you feel alive or helped
you regain your trust in intuition?
It could be any one of these situations
1. That moment when you trusted your instincts and refused to succumb to
2. That moment when you said no to unintended sarcasm and walked out of the
door without regret.
3. That moment when you decided to respect your choices.
You don’t arrive to a Kali moment instantly. Our soul recognises the knock on the
door that has always just been there. You have been tempted time and again to
open it but stepped back in fear of the unknown. Every time you felt a nudge in your
heart that something is not right you could hear the soft knock growing louder and
stronger. It's not a usual knock, rather it has a distant melody to it; the one that you
have maybe heard in your dreams sometimes. That door is luminous and large with
a symbolic huge red circular and mystical dot. The stronger your urge grows to open
the door, the brighter the dot illuminates. Then, one day you think it is the time. A
surge of emotions arises; from fear, doubt, denial, anxiety, excitement, joy,
depression to that one moment when all emotions merge into just one- Surrender.
That phase of denial may last for years or for months but when you surrender with
full faith to the universal energy; that is the time when you are ready to walk and
open that door. The energy that is constantly knocking on the other side of the door is
your own warrior archetype- your Kali. She is your own fearless reflection, waiting with
patience for you to trust her and let her lead your life. She is hoping that you will
submerge your fears and doubts in her darkness so she may guide you towards the
light. She is you and you are her.
Life is a journey from wherever you are now to that door; that door with a red dot,
that is waiting to be opened. A journey from your current empowered self to your
highest empowered psychic state; your Kali.
I have had many such moments in my life but would like to mention the one which has changed the course of my life. I come from a middle-class family where good morals and education were the pillars. After finishing my education, I got married at a young age to a prestigious family and was soon blessed with a beautiful child. I lived in a joint family and soon after the birth of my son, discovered the harsh truth of my husband's mental illness. I struggled for over twenty years with his mood swings, challenges and expectation of a joint family, my job and giving my child the pillars of good moral values and education. But somewhere during all this, I just stopped thinking about myself. It was only when my child moved out for higher education I started thinking of where I was heading. I could then find the courage of moving out to a place of my own. That was my Kali moment. I just trusted my inner voice. It was challenging to come to a new place and start life afresh. But strangely, I realized it was just me who was holding myself back for so many years. I think women are already empowered. If one woman can manage the house, job, kids, family, why does she not have the confidence to manage herself? After all that is what education is for. I did face many hurdles after my kali moment of moving out of the house alone, but as a person, I am much happier and at peace with myself.
I still take care of my husband and my in-laws but on my terms. The only regret is that I just wish I had the Kali moment when my son was younger and with me.
- Contributed by An Empowered Woman
Inner warrior stories
I was born a wanderlust free soul with little attachment to the regular comfortable life. My heart could see life as a play of the divine. And then I was married. Initially, it was overwhelming, but gradually I moulded myself to fit in, though still confused.
My Kali moment was the realisation that my life and its circumstances were there for a purpose. As I embraced it all with love, my inner journey began. All my actions became a means to realise my divine self. The challenging moments were like stepping stones to grow inwards. And the good times filled my heart with gratitude towards the divine. My inner Kali took me beyond dualities and judgments. The Kali moment was the realisation the life is not about giving or receiving love, but it was about being love and being totally immersed in unconditional love for all.
- Contributed by an Awakened Kali
Inner warrior stories
I left after 10 years of marriage. My parents and in laws were good people but my ex wasn't willing to accept that he had mental health issues, so I left with my two little girls, 3 and 8 years old and a suitcase of our clothes.
I rented a place, ordered the beds and went to work at the local newspaper, with a big smile, as usual. A bloke who worked with me said loudly,
Here she comes, always smiling, she never has any stress!
I said to him, "I have just left my husband and home, moved into an empty house, did you know that? I am smiling so I don't cry..."
This was my Kali moment and I must say it was the best decision of my life.
I left him at 31, bought my own house at 38, paid off my mortgage at 48 and bought another property as a Buy to Let so I could be financially free at 50. I have fulfilled all my dreams of writing a book, travelling all over the world, setting up WOW Women of the World Awards and raising funds for some wonderful charities like Healing Little Hearts and Midlands Langar Sewa Society, 🙏
My humble opinion is - Any woman who believes in herself can do this, I am just an ordinary woman, who is leading an Extraordinary life...
- Contributed by Nirmal Bhojani
I suppose I am at a phase of life where for me its not a Kali moment anymore but a kali life made of continues rhythm of kali playing the tune of time in my days and nights and in between this perfectly synchronized harmony of Universe I live my worldly character playing my part in this drama that my soul chose of itself.
I had my first strongest Kali moment when I fell in love and went on the confess it to the person who is now my husband of fifteen years. I always know that as long as I follow my heart, I will be fine. Even if I take disastrous decisions, I will be happy that they are my decisions guided by the divine.
My Kali moment is also hidden in my everyday moments when I feel my intention to make a difference to lives of my patients, every time that I feel that I have given my 100% and someone has felt cared for. My kali moment is also hidden in days when a life juggling among looking after a special son, a mainstream daughter, work commitments, school runs overwhelm me, when I have felt run over by life, sat down drowned in my tears but then the Universe has charged me with extra strength and I have seen grace and blessings in my misery. When I saw the big reasons and beauty in everything.
My kali moment is every time my kali merged into the nothing/Shiva. My feminine and masculine dissolved as one.
I am chosen one. Each one of us is. The soup of the universe invites us to dissolve into the endless, vibrating, swirling eternal dance and that's what the kali moments want to tell you!
- Contributed by Sunaina Bajaj
I had many Kali moments in my life. But one particularly changed my life. It was six years ago when one morning, I had a clear and powerful moment of awareness.
Out of the blue, a voice in my head said: "I am not happy anymore". It stated a fact; there was no emotion or doubt. At that moment, time stopped, and the only reality was this thought "I am not happy anymore". Because I had been happy since my childhood, not being happy anymore was unbearable to me. My quest to pursue happiness started from this moment: I had lost it; I needed to find it back. I changed all my life: ended my marriage, started meditation, sold our house, put all my stuff in storage, moved with only three suitcases six times before settling, lived heaven and hell in a karmic love passion, accompanied a young guy to his final destination in India, created my own coaching method "lebonheurtattend.com" (happiness awaits you. ), developed my psychic gifts I had no idea of, and the journey is not over yet! In 6 years, I lived 1000 lives, went from deep suffering to wonderful ecstasies (back and forth!), deepened my faith, experienced miracles and unbelievable moments.
I am far from the comfort, but I feel intensely alive because I consider my life as an adventure novel. And I have no regrets: my soul is at peace.
Journalist, writer, trainer and coach, the Le Bonheur t'attend
Often in life, our greatest fear is the one that we self-impose. We put shackles around us. We do not accept our own selves. I have lived a joyous life, part of which I was married to my male best friend with whom I had my twins. So, if life then was so wonderful for me, why did I create so much upheaval?
What if I told you that I felt like a fake, a misfit every single moment of my life? It was either that I live a lie all my life and suffer the consequences or live my truth and enjoy the magic. My Kali moment came when I finally allowed myself to look in the mirror and shed my layers of deception; the double life that I was leading. I finally realized that my own happiness lived hidden underneath the burden of societal norms. There was this desire to live freely - a life that belonged to me, and all I had to do was to take the first step of accepting my soul's calling; the rest would follow.
My Kali moment came when I finally was able to hear the vibrations of the words that I had been saying in the lonely chambers of my mind for years, ‘Yes, I am queer, and I accept my truth. I want society to also accept me for who I am.’
My Kali moment came when I had to move from the emotion of guilt to a place of pride in being who I am. I am many things, but most of all, I am human, and my biggest priority must be to myself, to live my truth that has been gifted to me and only then would I be free to care for others. The challenges were there, but my power was in living my truth. My intention was not to break hearts but to live my life freely and, in doing so, create a magical space for my family.
Today, I have finally been able to achieve that and have been able to give my family the greatest gift of all; the gift of a life that is orchestrated by nothing but truth and love. My partner of nearly fifteen years, a woman whom I adore and feel proud to have in my life, has finally received the place that she deserves – a place standing tall with pride, next to me and our twins.
Our Kali moment is not in our fear, it's in our truth.
Raga Olga D’Silva
Corinne Merle is a French theater producer, author, actress and yoga teacher. She is a
feminist activist. Her Kali moment happened when reading a book about the psychological
mechanisms of male oppression especially concerning women’s body.
La lecture du KING KONG THÉORIE de Virginie Despentes, il y a plus de dix ans, m’a sauvé la
vie. Réellement. Au sens premier du mot. J’ai eu besoin de l’écrire, c’est maintenant un
spectacle que je joue cet été au festival d’Avignon : COMMENT VIRGINIE D. A SAUVÉ MA VIE.
« Je me souviens très bien de la première fois où j’ai lu fois King Kong Théorie, de
Virginie Despentes. Virginie Despentes, nous y voilà.
Ça a été un choc, une véritable déflagration. De mes tréfonds surgissaient des forces
insoupçonnées, des complexités enfin reconnues.
Par exemple, quand j’ai lu : " Le viol fabrique les meilleures putes. Elles gardent
parfois à fleur de peau une flétrissure que les hommes aiment "… D’un coup me sont
revenues les images, les sensations, les chasses que les hommes me faisaient.
J’avais réellement l’impression qu’ils me reconnaissaient, qu’ils me flairaient, qu’ils
savaient que j’étais une proie… leur proie… »
Reading more than ten years ago Virginie Despentes’s book ,'King Kong
Theory. saved my life. Literally, I wrote it, embraced it and now I act it. How Virginie D.
saved my life is the title of my one woman show which I will be playing in the
Avignon Festival this July.
I am sharing a powerful extract :
I remember very well the first time I read King Kong Theory written by Virginie Despentes. Virginie Despentes, here we come. It was a shock, a real deflagration. From deep within were emerging unknown forces, finally acknowledged complexities. For instance, when I read, 'Rape produces the best whores.' They sometimes keep a very sensitive wilting which men
love. Suddenly, it brought alive back images, sensations, men hunting me. I really felt
they recognized me, sniffed me, knew that I was a prey… their prey…
COMMENT VIRGINIE D. A SAUVÉ MA VIE
7 - 31 July 2021 at 2.45 pm
Théâtre Arto – 3 rue du Râteau – 84000 Avignon
Everyone is facing a challenge in their life; some outwardly and some silently. But amongst us, many find the courage to come out and create a life that is led by choices. I am inviting women and men to share their Kali Moment so those who are wondering whether there is hope or a solution find courage to transform their lives by invoking their Kali. These real true stories reflect that challenges exist but if we are able to find the courage to tap into our inner warrior, then our path opens to solutions too. I pray that these stories will help you find your Kali moment.